Too often, we try to mold others into what we want them to be, what we think they are, what we think they should be. We are filled with expectations all around us. Friends, family, co-workers, even expectations to look amazing in that couture dress you are going to wear on Saturday. Expectations are really a dangerous thing. Especially when it comes to one another.
Instead of creating expectations, it is much easier most time to take step back, and honor someone for who they are, exactly where they are at in their journey. All the while taking into account the Great Realization that they may or may not represent what you may need or desire in that present moment , they just simply are. So what if you had a bad date? That is one more person you did not know before. So what if someone you were close with once hardly talks to you? So what if you lost your job? These are all moments that pass through us and leave a mark on your soul, so just be present when they are there. That way you don't look back and regret on taking someone or something for granted. A job. Your 20's. A friend. A loved one. what have you.
By doing this , you are free to completely submerse yourself into that situation or being you are sharing it with, at that moment. Which is what it is, a moment. Tomorrows changes are already the present, yesterday was yesterday, and the future is already here.
I believe people , situations and circumstances are meant to circle and intertwine in and out of your life. Much like the wind between the trees. A breeze passes and sails on its way, but the leaf and the branch had the moment to dance with it, and is changed because of it.
We are blessed because, unlike a leaf or a branch, we have memories , emotions, and a higher conscientious of being to feel and evaluate. But even more importantly we are above those things,more like the leaf. We are souls, spirits and energy that can move freely to cross and dance with each other.
How many friendships have you had in your life where you may have not spoken to that person in years, but if you were to be put in a room together it would be like a day has never passed? Your kindship wouldn't have missed a beat in its cosmic rhythm.
I have many of these people in my life and am thankful to have had those moments with them. They shared with me their gifts and individual light which resides in who they are. So what if we don't talk alot or we are not facebook (or myspace) friends? I was there in the moment and I have gratitude.
I am not perfect. I would never claim to be , and honestly, I would never want to be. But the more I face fears within myself of letting go of my sweet nostalgia, the less afraid I become.
The more I face the fact that I have an ego , as we all do, the more I can let go of any expectations of you (Even my expectations that you will read my blogs). I appreciate you for who you are and the dance we danced or will dance in the future.
Even if I knew you for a moment and wouldn't let my differences go, i still honor you.
Even if you dont know me as well as my parents, best friends, or someone who I am dating, I have unconditional respect and love for you and the mark you have left, sincerely from my soul to yours. I say this to anyone Ive known whose been in my life. Even my old babysitter in which I dont even know her name, or that sorority sister in college I never really got close to. Or an old friend or x-boyfriend whom I never talk to anymore. We are all meant to be on a constant path of change and I thank you for who you are.
So i leave you with this question for the day:
Who do you need to take time to honor and appreciate at this very moment? And furthermore, how will you tell them?
What expectations can you let go of?
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