loving differences.

Seek a true equal. Sometimes we tend to gravitate to others that are different from us, sometimes very different. Which can be a good thing. We should be curious and learn from others who have a different sort of jive. right? But what about dating? How much should you have in common? How different should you be? In a book Ive read twice now on my path to self realization, there's one chapter called "Seek a True Equal." This chapter in a nutshell basically means to find meaning in ourselves and in the lives of who you have a relationship with. Now on the surface its starts with the basics right? Hobbies? Similar Interests? Divulging deeper, I think that companions should have similarities and also seek and discuss the differences. The differences can present themselves as a platform to grow from. Or those differences can ultimately end that relationship because there is no middle ground. It is there where you can ask the difficult questions that may need to be asked.....
- Are we both showing genuine interest for each other?
- Do we both listen to each other on our difference and communicate? Do we communicate similar enough to do it effectively?
- Am I aware of any discomforts, doubts , or concerns? Am I sharing them or merely exploring them within myself?
- Can we work through our differences to strengthen the foundation of our relationship?

In the end it is more important to honor that person for who they are. Changing someone or creating stipulations in any relationship is unhealthy and unrealistic. My Dad told me to never get into a relationship expecting a person to change. True. And let's face , if there are several things you would like to change about someone, it may be time to release that person back into the world and honor the just the way they are. Knowing in full unconditional love that the relationship has reached its completeness as far as your involvement with one another. Maybe the relationship will take on a different meaning. Maybe you are better off continuing a true platonic friendship instead. Maybe you're better off just not talking at all anymore. Maybe its just not the right time, and destiny still has work to do with you before you share that time with someone. Maybe your souls were meant to cross paths in life for a greater purpose that you may not ever see or understand.


Either way, my bottom line is this: Honor who you are with. Be true and kind to yourself the best way you know how. Honesty can be very difficult to talk about. But the more honest you are, the easier you will see respect and trust you will have for others and others for you. Go for someone who is more of an equal in life, morally, ethically etc. but different enough to keep it interesting. Screw lust, vanity, money and all that stuff. Don't let it deter you from finding the one you need, want, and are destined by the cosmos and God to share your time with.



Seek a true equal.

Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is strong as death; jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame. ~ Song of Songs